Not distinguishing between racism/sexism/homophobia/transphobia etc and its “reverse” against the majority implies that there is an equivalency between the two. There is no equivalency when you have a power structure in place that systemically oppresses some groups and privileges others. All it takes is a cursory glance at the political/legal system in this country, those who tend to comprise our representation, and the laws that exist to get the most basic idea of how that power structure operates. And that’s just scratching the surface.
For a woman to be suspicious of the men she encounters is not sexism when the law so often fails to punish rapists, or when there are legitimate threats to her bodily autonomy and abortion rights. A transwoman that avoids all possible contact with straight men is not sexist, because she acknowledges the likelihood of encountering physical danger if she is honest about her identity. A black man who assumes that white people mean trouble is not racist when you consider the astoundingly poor track record this country has with regard to civil rights.
When you ignore that there is a BIG difference between the aforementioned examples and the kind of institutionalized racism, sexism, homophobia, transphobia, etc that pervade daily life, you are helping perpetuate the former. You are trivializing very real suffering. I know you may not mean it, but that doesn’t excuse it. So please don’t do that.
Weight appears to function in the same way that white often serves as a default for race; that is, when the race of a character is not specifically delineated, white is assumed. […] Only if the character is considered abnormal, i.e., fat or chubby, is her weight mentioned at all. Women and girls…
The interesting part to me is that around here, white IS the default race, in the sense that the majority of people I see around me are caucasian (although it’s a slim majority these days, on campus at least) but skinniness is not the default weight. Most people I know are carrying at least a little extra weight. When people are naturally skinny, it’s a talking point just as much as when they’re significantly overweight. (Especially if they’re short as well as skinny; Russ, I’m looking at you. *grin*) But when I read, I do assume that the characters are thin, and I can’t help but think that’s because I’m used to seeing exclusively skinny people in my visual media. If people in movies/comics/TV aren’t skinny, it really does stand out as Other. And somehow this leaves me in a place where if written media wants me to picture a character as having a normal weight, it has to specify.
I’m going to be charitable and assume when you said normal what you meant to say was AVERAGE.
“First, remember that style comes in all sizes, so the bigger you are, the more style you have. And second, draw attention to your best features by pointing at them, and conceal your flaws by sucker punching anyone who mentions them.”—Those fashion tips are courtesy of noted style icon and total badass Miss Piggy. (via albinwonderland)
So now it seems like the popular thing to do to call yourself a fan of My Little Pony is to refer to yourself as a ‘brony.’ This term was coined by members of 4Chan, which as we all know is a source of deeply creative and inspired ideas, and a bastion of tolerance, understanding, and optim I can’t even finish this fucking sentence. Point is, I hate it. It’s a bad term. It’s an utterly terrible, gender-biased term and much like ‘trap,’ it is drastically overused by people who aren’t actually thinking about what it means.
“But Peach,” the hypothetical brony-in-question says, “don’t you want MLP to have more exposure? How can you hate on bronies, when we’ve done so much for getting the show into the media spotlight?” To which I respond “neither of those questions have anything to do with my point, dunkass, but I’ll respond anyway.”
Firstly: yes. I want MLP to get more exposure. I want it to be so popular it reaches the point of total media oversaturation, so that I can turn a corner and see little kids and their parents, hand-in-hand, singing ‘Giggle at the Ghostie’ while wearing matching Pinkie Pie t-shirts. Stores will advertise the very latest in bridle-based fashion, as an Applejack cosplayer sets up a stand on the sidewalk and begins to sell apple spice muffins. Fluttershy lifestylers will lead the animals in a song and dance routine in the park across the street, while high above, rainbow-hued hanggliders soar overhead, resulting in at least three fatal accidents from failed Sonic Rainboom attempts. This is the world I wish to live in, and it will be glorious, aside from the people who are dead.
Secondly: I don’t hate on bronies. I hate on the TERM brony, but on the whole, I think they’re good people who like a good show and are supporting it as well as they can. But herein lies my problem: nothing bronies have done for the show is all that unusual or exceptional for a fandom. What is unusual is that they are supporting it with a passion, intensity, and degree of creativity usually seen in shows with predominantly FEMALE fandoms… fandoms which the popular media actively ignores.
The reason MLP fandom is currently in the spotlight is because a greater-than-average amount of its membership is heterosexual white men, so much so that they coined their own unique TERM, because… uh… hm. Why DO bronies need a unique term for themselves, while non-male pony fans are just ‘people who like My Little Pony’?
The answer: because they’re heterosexual white men who are insecure in their sexual and gender identity unless they reclassify everything they like into being a ‘masculine’ interest. And if you think there’s some other reason why the term ‘brony’ exists, or that it’s some kind of gender-neutral term, you’re absolutely wrong and you will continue to be wrong, because you have your heteronormative blinders on. ‘Brony’ exists because MLP is too feminine for many guys to accept as ‘okay to like’ unless they can qualify it as not-feminine or mitigate it via irony, because I guess admitting you like something earnestly gives you ICKY GIRL COOTIES. Female and genderqueer members of MLP fandom have been just as dedicated and just as intense and just as creative as the ‘brony’ segments, but as above, are ignored in popular perception because society has decreed that something isn’t REALLY interesting and cool until the white guys accept it.
And while deciding your interests are somehow special and unique while those of others who share your interests are not is not a UNIQUELY white male heterosexual thing to do, it is a CLASSICALLY white male heterosexual thing to do. ‘Brony’ redefines the broad sweep of MLP fandom into exactly two categories: ‘guys’ and ‘everybody else.’ And every time I hear someone support bronies by saying ‘yeah, we’re taking it back!’ my words of congratulation on overcoming needless gender binaries turn to ash in my mouth, because now the narrative has shifted from ‘it is okay for guys to like this show’ to ‘guys liking this show is why this show is valid.’
So, please, stop using the term ‘brony.’ It reinforces the gender divide in a very subtle, insidious manner, and asserts that even in unmistakably feminine arenas, the opinion of men will always carry greater weight than the opinion of anyone else. And that isn’t ‘taking it back,’ that’s just ‘taking it.’
So the author of this piece got death threats for it. Peace, love and harmony my fat arse.
I support the author of this piece. And the death threats? Well, that just goes to show how tolerant the bronies really are.
“Essentially, the idea of a “slut” is a myth told to women to keep them in their place. Just as Santa will not actually bring you coal on Christmas if you break a few of the house rules, you will not actually turn into an intrinsically tainted, unpalatable creature if you break one of society’s rules and have sex with one too many men. The word “slut” isn’t a criticism for having too much sex necessarily, but for being a woman: a real, living, breathing woman with quirks, foibles, normal sexual feelings, and personality; and failing to live up to the societal ideal for a woman: the passive, pliable, perpetually innocent, and sexually available Barbie doll.”—The Slut Myth (via ceedling)